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29 May 2008

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Sassy

You're in Australia. This is what Australia is like. Perhaps you'll find it easier to get used to it here if instead of forcing your values, wants and needs onto this place, you take it for what it is.

I honestly don't know what you expected with the school. You've talked about the voluntary segregation here and how there's no one here that looks like your son, why did you expect a school to be any different? And why did you expect them to anticipate your needs and the needs of your child when the majority of their students are Caucasian? Schools here are colour blind and have strict bullying rules. If you want your child to have a good education he won't be in a racially diverse environment. That's the reality of where you live now.


I'd also like to ask again, why you chose Sydney? You seem to have chosen it as the place you expected to give your children the racially diverse environment you feel they need, but it's just not like that. It's the most racist place in Australia, is home to Australia's KKK and the Cronulla rights happened there not so long ago.

You're frustrations seem to be stemming from your own unrealistic expectations. I don't understand your complaints about the school. You said the lady who did the tour was great. Then you complain the school isn't diverse enough, like what do you expect them to do? Knock back white students? I don't understand what you expect them to do.

I'm sorry this comment is so aggressive. But I was really offended by this post.

Kohana

Sassy, first of all, let me say sorry for offending you in the post. Second, I want you to know that that post I just wrote "Does an Explanation Void and Apology" was written before I received this comment so I was in no way trying to discount what you wrote here.

I agree with you that things will be easier for me if I "take it for what it is" here. I am in the process of figuring out WHAT it is here. I can't abandon my values, nor can I force them. With time, I will learn how things are here and how my values need to adjust and change to work within the framework of this society.

In regards to voluntary segragation, I do not think that is unique to Sydney by any means. It was the same in Nashville, and in Holland when I lived there. People choose to live with people who are "like them" all over the world. Even though that is not likely to change, it still makes me sad.

I am saddened that a quality education is usually not available to children of color. I am saddened that the neighborhoods where people of color live are usually poorer neighborhoods. Again, that is true whereaver I have been, not just here. It still makes me sad.

We chose Sydney for a number of reasons: its (relative) proximity to the Pacific Rim and the opportunities for innovation that provides for my husband's job, the fact that statistically, it is more culturally diverse than London and Paris, the climate, and the water. There are other factors but those are the biggies. I have never heard that it is the most racist place in Australia. I have consistently heard that it is the most open-minded and accepting of diversity place in Australia, before your comment.

What I hope for in a school for my children, (but understand I might not find) is a shared belief that children's ethnicity and culture is part of their identities to be valued and celebrated, rather than intentionally overlooked. I want an ethnically diverse school because adult transracial adoptees tell us time and time again, that to be one of a very few children of color in school was a difficult and damaging experience. I want to take the input from people of color who have grown up in white families, to do the best I can for my children.

The school I toured is reflective of the neighborhood I live in. The neighborhood or the school might not be the right ones for us. Or, they might be. Time will tell. I appreciate your input and your comments and you've done a great deal to help me sort things out here. I appreciate having an Australian in my audience to act as a sounding board. I DON'T know how things work here, and I don't know when I am being offensive in this culture. I appreciate people helping me to figure that out. Thanks.

Sassy

I wonder if any of the Australian's that told you Sydney was the "most open-minded and accepting of diversity place in Australia", actually lived outside Sydney?

Have you read about the Cronulla riots on wikipedia? Here's a link - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cronulla_riots

It happened it 2005 and was very disturbing to see the news footage at the time. I doubt you could get 5000 people to bash middle eastern people in any other capital city.

I don't want to bash Sydney too hard, but I'm really surprised you were told that there are other Australian cities that are less racially tolerant than Sydney. In Melbourne for example, our lord mayor is Chinese. He barely speaks English and you can buy tshirts that say 'John So is my bro'. I doubt you'd get that in Sydney. Adelaide, Perth, Hobart, Darwin, are all also places I'd suggest are 'better' than Sydney in that way. Possibly Brisbane, but I've heard there's still a fair bit of support for Pauline Hanson up there, you probably want to wiki her as well for background on racism in Australia.

I don't have the time to get into the rest of your comment now, and I'm not sure there'd be much of a point. But I just wanted to comment on that.

T

Kohana - I understand why you were disappointed and offended by what you witnessed at the school. Unfortunately the fact that the song was being played and enjoyed was most likely a case of total ignorance, as you insinuated in your post. Do not lose hope. Do not grow weary in doing right. Love, T

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